A Summary and a Question about Timing

I hope you had a nice weekend. We did many things, but I won’t bore you with every detail.

We had a nice Veteran’s Day. I invited a WWII veteran to speak to our homeschool group #2. Since all public buildings were closed, I rented a hall for the event. The kids decorated handkerchiefs with patriotic messages to send to soldiers and we also collected goods for 4 care packages to send to Afghanistan. The guest speaker served in the South Pacific and was very good at speaking to children. I felt really good about the event.

The 3 boys sang a trio in the adult session of Stake Conference on Saturday night and I played the violin. Richard sang with the choir. Mark bumped his head on the podium as he was climbing up to sing, but managed to sing through teary eyes and some pain. It was a good experience for the boys and they enjoyed some Lego rewards when it was all over.

I was reading about discipline in an education magazine that I receive from BYU. One article said that the greatest measure of how well you are doing as a parent is how your family treats one another. Do you think I can measure my success during a time when the kids are all watching a movie together or playing around in the mountains? The results would be so much better then.

Ten ideas for home school survival

This list is not really about home schooling. Most of these things apply to any long-term goal. In other words, this post reminds me that diversity is important in ideas, but principles are the same for accomplishing goals.

10. Nurture a marathon mentality. Sprinters will not make it.

9. Create a nurturing environment rather than an adversarial one.

8. Encourage friendships inside and outside the home schooling community. (Moms and kids)

7. Read books aloud daily. Go nuts and buy a lot of books. Libraries like ours lack classic literature and history books for children.

6. Steel yourself to criticism, and avoid unfair self-criticism. Be warned that people will test your children in public places about math facts and ask if they have any friends.

5. Define your goals. Educate yourself. Find a curriculum that works and put your blinders on. There are hundreds of choices out there, but you don’t have time or energy to sample all of them.

4. Establish and maintain routines for start time, friend time, quiet study time, service, and jobs around the house.

3. Make family and personal scripture study part of your school day.

2.  Have a gloriously fun time.

1. Pray a lot.

One load, one dog

Well, looky here. I washed the blankets our dog rests upon and this is what came out in the lint collector.  Revolting, isn’t it?

And here’s another view to give you nightmares.

Today, aside from the above lint ball, was wonderful. I found a lot of joy this morning watching a friend’s children and reading books to the baby. I giggled as I watched this baby maul Mark with hugs and kisses for about 30 minutes. Baby kisses! Mark didn’t know what to think. He’s always been the kisser. He kept looking at me for help/reassurance/help but I was too busy cheering on the baby,” Tackle that big boy! Big hugs, now!”

After baby-sitting we went to a science club meeting and I taught 20 kids about crystals. Fun. We also harvested papyrus from the pond so we can learn how the Egyptians made papyrus. I know, you wish you were us. Only, you wish you were us with a unicorn.

We came home and I tried to read aloud to the kids but had to take a nap at chapter 5. I fell asleep on the couch listening to Daniel read to the family where I had left off. When I woke up, Timothy asked me if I’d like to hear him read the last chapter of his book. (Shouldn’t we all just cancel our cable and read aloud to each other from now on? I am sure it would solve most of our problems.)

And so it went, my last day of being 35, surrounded by my children plus twenty, growing crystals, harvesting papyrus (and dog lint)… and people, I loved it. I couldn’t wish for a better day.

Demanding more

It’s interesting to me that in addition to thinking, talking and writing are important to gaining an opinion about things. It’s evidence to me that we are not meant to be isolated; enjoying the company of good listeners and thinkers is a gift to cherish. Quiet thinking time and expression of thoughts in writing or speaking grows more important in the education of my children as they grow older. I’m moving into adolescent level instruction in my home, and it is demanding and exciting. It’s secondary education and it is something I do well.

Pre-adolescent children are very concrete in their learning. They often require props and make very tightly bound conclusions about things. They live in the “happy land of absolutes.” During adolescence, thinking becomes more organized; kids are able to discuss independent thoughts about what they have read, rather than just recite the plot back to you. However, the ability to say what they think about something (metacognition “thinking about what they are thinking”), draw conclusions or grasp abstract concepts or think multidimensionally (formal-operational thinking) is a gradual process and can show up at some times and not others. Even adults don’t always operate on a formal-operational level in their thinking. It’s even more so with adolescents. Some days they seem to understand; they are able to tell you what they learned, what they think, how it can be applied, etc. but then the next week that ability seems to be gone. Despite these setbacks, it’s good to stretch their minds.

Higher level thinking skills emerge as students are expected to rise to this level. In other words, challenge is essential to being able to learn to think well.

There are three things I have learned to help navigate the waters of higher level thinking questions.

First, before a lecture or discussion, draw students’ minds to certain points. For instance, if you are studying a document, you can ask them to “look for…” or “think about how you feel about…” before you begin studying the document. You can say, “After you read this book, I will ask you questions about your thoughts about your responsibility to family vs. country.”

Next, to help them work up to big thoughts, ask fundamental, basic questions first. These are the building blocks with which we build bigger thoughts. In book discussions I find it easier to move to higher level questions if I ask basic plot, geographical or historical questions first. People need to be a little conversant about a subject before they know what they think about it.

Last, I have also learned that big questions require WAIT TIME. This means after a difficult question, allow students some time to think. These sometimes uncomfortably silent moments can seem to drag on forever, but come on, we can’t expect profound answers without time to formulate them. Rephrasing the question helps sometimes. People need time to prepare their thoughts and even then, they don’t always know what they think.

This is where writing can be helpful. Nothing makes you analyze the logic, validity, and form of your ideas than writing them out. Wrestling with ideas as I write is something that I love to do.

And, in case you are wondering, a lot of what I said in paragraphs 2 and 3 I learned by reading this text:

Steinberg, L. (1993). Adolescence, 3rd Ed., New York: McGraw-Hill, Inc.



School notes: Day 31

It’s Day 31 of the Ross School Year.

Last night I sat down and read all the articles that were submitted last year for our monthly homeschool paper. I could finally read them without the baggage associated from already reading the roughest, rougher, and rough drafts. It was good for me. I was entertained and very encouraged. So many things are like that. You have to take a step back to see things clearly.

Paige is busy these days learning German, playing piano, writing essays, reading heavy books, and dancing ballet 4 nights a week. She gets up for early morning seminary, too. Half of her classes are away from home and she is surrounded by good friends and teachers each day.

Daniel sits down to play the piano probably 4 times a day. He’s composing a piece for his piano lesson as I write. Last week he read Microbe Hunters by Karl deKruif and The Double Helix by James Watson. He’s a scientist at heart. He spends his free time creating little stop-motion Lego animation movies and training for his athletic test for Webelos. He likes Latin.

Timothy remains most interested in science and math. I love his writing and tiny illustrations. He sits down to play piano several times a day, too. He takes a weekly P.E. class and runs like a cheetah.

Mark wants to read. He wants to know how to spell everything.

That’s the school report.